I have witnessed hundreds of times in session, people who arrive carrying everything: the week, the year, the decade. They lie down. The room is quiet. And somewhere in the first several minutes, before any technique has been applied, before anything has been said,...
Healing often begins because something hurts. Something feels off. The body is tired of holding, bracing, managing, or enduring. Many people arrive at embodied work with a clear sense that they cannot keep living the way they have been living. In those early stages,...
When people think about receiving touch, they often imagine relaxation, comfort, or pleasure. What is less commonly spoken about is how much information the body reveals in the act of receiving. Touch does not only soothe. It reflects. It shows you how you meet...
Many people assume that communication during a session must interrupt the experience. They worry that speaking will pull them out of sensation or break the flow they have just begun to feel. This belief often comes from earlier experiences where communication meant...
Wanting to be held seems simple on the surface. It can feel like a basic human need. Yet for many people, the moment arms come close or a body leans in, something tightens. The breath shortens. Muscles brace. The mind may say yes, but the body quietly says not yet....
There are people who can receive a massage, accept affection, or be held by someone close, and nothing feels particularly wrong. But underneath the surface, something else is happening. They are not fully there. And the tricky part is that many people dissociate...
There are moments when someone is right in front of you, kind, present, even devoted, and still your body stays guarded. Your mind may want closeness. Your heart may want it too. But your shoulders tighten, your breath gets shallow, your belly braces, and your nervous...
Many bodies stay alert because they feel watched, interpreted, or evaluated. Even in moments of care, the nervous system can remain subtly engaged — tracking responses, adjusting, or anticipating what might be expected next. In tantra massage, one of the most...
